**See links below for other posts I have written about our journey into Alzheimer’s**
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
“I don’t much care where –”
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.” – Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
This quote is a terrific reflection of many conversations I have with my mother. It was inspired after the morning’s adventure, which went a little like this. . . (Morning phone call)
Act One
Me: Hello Mudder, how are you this morning?
Mother: Well, I’m alright. How are you?
Me: You don’t sound alright.
Mother: Well, I’m not. I’m a little shaken. I had a wild night. I fell out of bed.
Me: YOU FELL OUT OF BED?? ARE YOU OKAY?
Mother: I’m not really sure.
Me: I will be right over. (20 minute intermission)
Act Two (at her facility)
Me: Let me see your arm. Can you bend it? Please walk across the room. I don’t see anything. What is your level of pain?
Mother: I don’t think I hurt myself. I have to go to the bathroom. (10 minute intermission)
Me: What do you think? Do we need to go?
Mother: Where were we going? To the store?
Me: No, we were going to Urgent Care if needed.
Mother: Well, I’m fine. Let’s watch ‘Live with Kelly’. She’s always funny.
Links to other related posts
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Thank you Elvis Presley
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I Want My Mother
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I Choose Joy
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Help, I’m Lost in Macy’s
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You are Such a Slacker
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Up all Night
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Impatience is My Middle Name
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Memories Light the Corner of My Mind
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When I grow up, I want to…
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The Silence Within
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Practicing What I Preach
Blogs and Links
For over 5 years I took care of a very special woman with Alzheimer. This conversation reminded me of the many funny, conversations and moments I had with her. As painful as the disease is, it also has many entertaining and joyful moments. Those are the ones we hang on to! Thanks for this blog…Gave me a smile first thing this morning!
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There are still many good times here as well, for which I am grateful. Thank you for stopping by!
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Shell has the right of it! My mother is currently clutched in the arms of Alzheimer’s and while the rough days are rough indeed, those days with the bright moments are something I will hold onto forever.
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Thank you for blogging about this topic. I find it can be hard to talk about. My grandfather passed of Alzheimers and the hardest thing for me was watching my father as he watched his father fade away. Now, my father has been diagnosed with it a few months ago. It’s a scary time – more so because I know what to expect having watched it from the caregiver’s and the patient’s perspective. I appreciate you sharing your stories – and seeing that although it can be painful and difficult at times, there are opportunities for laughter, joy, and a deepening of love. Much appreciated! (Big Hug!)
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I wish you the best in your journey with your dad. It is definitely a wide range of emotions.
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I am one of many who also have a dear mother afflicted with Alzheimers. Beyond what at first was sadness and grief, I found a quiet joy in being with her. I found that the greatest gift I can give her and she gives me is the gift of presence. With someone like this, there is nowhere to be but in that very moment, exquisitely present, dancing with whatever story arises between us. And for that we are both blessed.
Thank you for sharing and allowing me/us to share also.
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That is very true, just appreciate and enjoy today. Thank you for sharing your story.
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I love your post, it made me smile, I don’t know why it just does 🙂
I think she’s lucky to have you 🙂
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That is very kind of you. I am very privileged to be in this position!
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I understand. Sometimes I wish I didn’t but then I wouldn’t connect with you and so many others.
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I had many a conversation like this with my dad and also his mother. Both died from Alzheimer’s. Thanks for the humor in a not so funny situation. The quote sums up Alzheimer’s perfectly.
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I have to find the humor in it when possible, or I would probably cry. (Not that that is always a bad plan.) Losing her in the mall last week still has me feeling pretty low about my caretaker skills, I will admit. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad and grandmother. You probably have much more insight than I have.
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thanks for this-my mom fell today. Had much the same conversation. It is so crazy. So crazy!
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Is your mom doing okay after her fall? I didn’t know until my mom was diagnosed that balance issues are a symptom connected with Alzheimer’s. I
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