Monthly Archives: October 2012

Well, you didn’t have to be so honest!

I cam across this illustration this morning. I think there is a Peeping Tom looking right into my thoughts this week, with a little tongue-in-cheek thrown in here.

  1. Be impeccable with your word.

    Okay, so far I am doing well with this list. My biggest struggles are not about telling the truth. Some would say I struggle with telling too much truth, especially about myself! Thankfully for everyone else, I do have some established boundaries for my personal life. For example, I’ve never mentioned the time I . . . oh never mind!

    Now about that notion of saying only what I mean. I need a time-out button on my mouth some days. I can start out on a good note. When I start rambling, I need a mute button before I carry on past what is necessary.

  2. Don’t take anything personally.

    Anything? Really? How offensive! Now I don’t agree with the statement that ‘nothing others do is because of you’. I am guilty of owning others’ issues however. Crazy, crazy choice here. I have enough issues of my own. Is it possible to care too much? I don’t feel qualified to answer that question. I am sure I could focus less on the solution and more on encouragement when others come to me with their problems. It really is ls okay if others don’t take my advice.Most of the time you are looking for a sounding board. You really do know what the right answer is.

    Everyone needs a nudge or nod in the right direction occasionally. Most people don’t need a shove!

    Just how do you want me to respond to the person who just gave me a verbal flower bomb? I assume that you would like me to see things through their eyes instead of mine. If I believe this, it gets a little tough to feel sorry for myself.

    “Don’t let other people influence your thoughts and decisions too much. You probably dont see it, but they do. It affects you and the people around you. They can see this and they never know who they will get when they spend time with you. Either you or the people influencing you.You will never truly be yourself until you stop letting others run your life, thoughts, decisions, and everything else. Hang in there you will figure this out.” – Unknown

  3. Don’t make assumptions.

    Should I really have to tell you what I am thinking? How much easier it is on me if you would just work harder at reading my mind! Schedule me for another root canal, but please don’t ask me to address any conflict I have with you. This is really putting my trust in our relationship out on a limb. What if this exposes some flaws or weak spots that I need to work on? I’m sure you know exactly what I mean here. . . right??

    I’m starting to think I have a lot of things to work on today.

  4. Always do your best.

    I do need reminders that my best is going to change from day-to-day. It is okay to give myself a break. Some days my best  is based on my physical health. Certain medications wreak havoc on my emotions. I am writing a new motto for today: Go with the flow, lay low, and take it slow until it’s time to go. I could write a book about judging myself. Today I am going to write a novelette to myself titled, ‘This too shall pass. Cut yourself a break.’.

The recent weeks have caught up to me physically and emotionally. Car wrecks, ER visits, physical therapy, blood pressure problems. The surgery? I confess that I felt a little redeemed when my husband said I couldn’t seem to catch a break lately.

I struggle with my list of everyone else whose trials are bigger, more significant, more long-term. Yes, I acknowledge that I know so many people dealing with monumental things in their life right now. This isn’t about dismissing the things that others are battling.  I don’t think it is healthy to pretend that my problems don’t matter just because others have bigger mountains to overcome today. God does really care about all the details of my life. He cares about details of your life also. This is not an either/or situation.

“What’s the price of a pet canary? Some loose change, right? And God cares what happens to it even more than you do. He pays even greater attention to you, down to the last detail—even numbering the hairs on your head! So don’t be intimidated by all this bully talk. You’re worth more than a million canaries.” – Matt. 10:29 – 31, The Message

The conundrum is finding that balance between self-pity and self-worth. The good news is that there are several good principles that help.

  • Throw all your anxiety onto him, because he cares about you. – 1 Pet. 5:7
  • Anyone who meets a testing challenge head-on and manages to stick it out is mighty fortunate. For such persons loyally in love with God, the reward is life and more life. – James 1:12
  • I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat.  I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me! – Dr. Seuss

With this, I am off for some reflection and meditation. I will let you know what changes I am going to make. Or. . . maybe not!

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